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Guest List Conundrums!

Diana says: So my fiancé and I are getting married and the hardest part is who to invite! I come from a giant family (my great grandparents had 7 kids and each of those had three grandkids at least. Lot’s of people!) Amber and I want a smaller wedding, which means well below 100. Who do I invite and how do I answer the question “I didn’t get my invitation! You invited me, right?” from third cousin whatsisname?!

Kristen says: My dear, dear Diana. First, let me start by saying congratulations! You are getting married and that is amazing!!! Mozel tov! Second, let me say this once and I hope this clears things up for you. Weddings are expensive and most couples end up paying for it themselves. So, if you are forking over the cash like Eliot Spitzer at a Motel 6, you have every right to invite whomever it is you want! The problem is everyone knows that your event will be the party of the year and wants to go. But at the end of the day someone has to be the Rosie O’Donnell at a P. Diddy party and NOT GET IN!! So, if you are paying for it yourself and you are afraid of going over budget by inviting the entire clan, don’t invite everyone. People will understand this because money talks! Only invite the essentials: immediate family and friends. It might sound rude, but think of the uninvited as second string. Only let them on the field if your first string picks cant make it. Anyone who has a problem with that doesn’t understand that this day is about the two of you and not them. And really, who wants to have someone at the wedding whose priorities are all out of whack?!

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